Individual Therapy with EMDR
EMDR therapy is a powerful technique to help clients move past barriers and unconscious conflicts that may interfere with their desired personal success during the coaching process. I’ve had good success working with my coaching clients weaving EMDR into our work together. My experience has been that personal coaching + EMDR truly is the “power team” — the combination that can boost coaching to the next level — bullseye achieved! Only licensed mental health professionals can be trained to use EMDR, but don’t let the “therapist as life coach” scare you away from this powerful process. When I’m hired to coach, I do just that, coach (well mostly, until the therapist in me wonders where the “getting stuck” and interference is coming from!). That said, problems surface from time to time, and EMDR is particularly helpful when obstacles arise such as: blocks and feeling stuck, longstanding resistant negative thoughts and self-perceptions, guilt about success, anxiety about failure, feeling that you don’t deserve happiness and success, self-esteem issues and performance blocks and inhibitions.
Personal Development with EMDR
Coaching can yield amazing results for many, however at times, the usual coaching tools such as powerful questions, inquiry, accountability, support, mentoring, personal honesty and integrity, replacing negative thoughts, and so on, are not enough to get the job done, and move clients towards their goals. With stealth-like precision, coaching combined with EMDR can help clients clear the path and help them:
- Get out of their own way
- Uncover all those hidden dreams and desires
- Silence the voice of the “inner self-saboteur”
- Become effective and communicate with clarity and ease
- Manage any anxiety and fear that might surface as one begins to make changes
- Address any performance anxiety issues
- Identify fear of failure, and yes, fear of success
- Imagine and experience a future “whole, fixed and ideal self”
- Replace negative self-limiting beliefs with positive self-esteem
- Discover unconscious blocks that keep clients stuck around issues related to relationships, career, success, money, body image, habits, change, happiness and more
Couples Therapy with EMDR
I’ve successfully worked with many couples who desire a healthier and more satisfying relationship. I work with many high-functioning couples who would like to enhance their relationship and reestablish intimacy and connection. I also work with individuals at various stages of relationships including: newly-formed relationships, couples seeking pre-marital counseling and guidance, new parents seeking support, those considering separation or divorce and the newly single and ready to date. I draw from attachment-based theory, helping couples understand their own attachment style as well as that of their partner. Clients can learn to communicate their needs and “hear” the needs of their partner, as well as develop a shared vision or goals, learn acceptance and compassion for self and the other, heal from infidelity and develop new skills. Clients also are guided to identify and de-escalate triggers, address sex and intimacy concerns and understand how the past and family of origin issues may be impacting the relationship in the present. I use my training from The Gottman Institute, as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT and Non-Violent Communication or NVC to support my work with couples.